Remember that list of resolutions from New Year’s day?
You know the one that says stuff like: Never eat sugar again, go to bed before 10pm every night, workout every day … Stuff like that.
So you may be wondering why just a day, or a week, or a month into the year, you’ve already tossed that list out the window.
Sigh, I’ll try again next year.
But what if you could try again this year, just differently.
For a moment, let’s think like a scientist and see the challenge as not having anything to do with you, rather in the wording of the goals. It’s the linguistic set up of the resolutions that has made it such a challenge to follow through.
One of the main reasons that resolutions aren’t always successful is undue pressure. When you give yourself the pressure of the “every” or “never” or “times week,” as soon as you skip that one day, mind gets stuck on, well I didn’t do enough. If only I was more motivated or better/smarter/‘gooder’, I would do better…And then, we feel bad… Sound familiar?
The thing is that our unconscious mind does not respond to ‘feel bad in order to do better’ motivation. It gets overwhelmed and it actually tries to fix whatever it was that you haven’t done in the past by dwelling there, thinking that there’s something that needs to be done. The thing is that the run that you didn’t take yesterday is in the past, and there’s nothing that needs to be done about that. Hurry up, take that run yesterday.
We want mind fully present and focused on the bigger picture. It’s like hiking up a mountain and stumbling over a rock in the path. You wouldn’t stop the entire journey to sit and stare and dwell on the stumble, and you wouldn’t even think to walk backwards, staring at the rock. You might walk more aware, or careful but you would would keep moving forward on your path. It would be silly to do anything else. Besides, you want to see the beautiful view at the top of the mountain. So you keep moving forward. And when you get to the top and admire the view, the strength of the journey is what makes it even more beautiful.
4 Tips for Making Your Resolutions Stick:
1. Change your wording. Instead of saying I’m going to run every day or I’m going to try running every morning. Just tell yourself that you’re going to run. And then run. And then run again. And run. Think of the Nike slogan ‘Just do It.’ It’s not just try to do it, or always do it, or do it every day. It’s ‘just do it.’ So run, run, and just run.
2. In order to make resolutions stick, you have to speak the language of the subconscious mind. And the subconscious mind speaks in pictures and images. So take a moment, close your eyes and visualize yourself doing the resolution, take in all the details. What you’re wearing, are your location, even the temperature of the air, the time of day. Bonus tip, to make it even better, watch yourself not only doing the resolution, but notice how it feels once you’ve finished. Watch the excitement and joy light up your face. 🙂
3. When you need motivation, take a deep breath, and look at the BIG Picture. What do you plan to accomplish? Who are you transforming into being?
4. Remember that every day, every moment is a new beginning. Be gentle with yourself. Life is about the journey and what you learn a long the way. So keep moving forward, one step, leap, hop, skip, and jump at a time!
Thanks for allowing me to be a part of your healing journey! Comment below or send me an email and let me know how this works for you!